Being too ambitious is a clever form of self-sabotage

(maalvika.substack.com)

160 points | by alihm 6 hours ago

18 comments

  • meander_water 3 hours ago
    > the "taste-skill discrepancy." Your taste (your ability to recognize quality) develops faster than your skill (your ability to produce it). This creates what Ira Glass famously called "the gap," but I think of it as the thing that separates creators from consumers.

    This resonated quite strongly with me. It puts into words something that I've been feeling when working with AI. If you're new to something and using AI for it, it automatically boosts the floor of your taste, but not your skill. And you end up never slowing down to make mistakes and learn, because you can just do it without friction.

    • chatmasta 2 hours ago
      This is exactly why I’m wary of ever attempting a developer-focused startup ever again.

      What’s not mentioned is the utter frustration when you can see your own output is not up to your own expectations, but you can’t execute on any plan to resolve that discrepancy.

      “I know what developers want, so I can build it for them” is a death knell proportionate to your own standards…

      The most profitable business I built was something I hacked together in two weeks during college holiday break, when I barely knew how to code. There was no source control (I was googling “what is GitHub” at the time), it was my first time writing Python, I stored passwords in plaintext… but within a year it was generating $20k a month in revenue. It did eventually collapse under its own weight from technical debt, bugs and support cost… and I wasn’t equipped to solve those problems.

      But meanwhile, as the years went on and I actually learned about quality, I lost the ability to ship because I gained the ability to recognize when it wasn’t ready… it’s not quite “perfectionism,” but it’s borne of the same pathology, of letting perfect be the enemy of good.

    • furyofantares 1 hour ago
      I'm confused. I often say of every genAI I've seen of all types that it is totally lacking in taste and only has skill. And it drastically raises your skill floor immediately, perhaps all the way up to your taste, closing the gap.

      Maybe that actually is what you were saying? But I'm confused because you used the opposite words.

    • Loughla 3 hours ago
      This is the disconnect between proponents and detractors of AI.

      Detractors say it's the process and learning that builds depth.

      Proponents say it doesn't matter because the tool exists and will always exist.

      It's interesting seeing people argue about AI, because they're plainly not speaking about the same issue and simply talking past each other.

      • ants_everywhere 1 hour ago
        I usually see the opposite.

        Detractors from AI often refuse to learn how to use it or argue that it doesn't do everything perfectly so you shouldn't use it.

        Proponents say it's the process and learning that builds depth and you have to learn how to use it well before you can have a sensible opinion about it.

        The same disconnect was in place for every major piece of technology, from mechanical weaving, to mechanical computing, to motorized carriages, to synthesized music. You can go back and read the articles written about these technologies and they're nearly identical to what the AI detractors have been saying.

        One side always says you're giving away important skills and the new technology produces inferior work. They try to frame it in moral terms. But at heart the objections are about the fear of one's skills becoming economically obsolete.

      • jchw 3 hours ago
        > It's interesting seeing people argue about AI, because they're plainly not speaking about the same issue and simply talking past each other.

        It's important to realize this is actually a general truth of humans arguing. Sometimes people do disagree about the facts on the ground and what is actually true versus what is bullshit, but a lot of the time what really happens is people completely agree on the facts and even most of the implications of the facts but completely disagree on how to frame them. Doesn't even have to be Internet arguments. A lot of hot-button political topics have always been like this, too.

        It's easy to dismiss people's arguments as being irrelevant, but I think there's room to say that if you were to interrogate their worldview in detail you might find that they have coherent reasoning behind why it is relevant from their perspective, even if you disagree.

        Though it hasn't really improved my ability to argue or even not argue (perhaps more important), I've definitely noticed this in myself when introspecting, and it definitely makes me think more about why I feel driven to argue, what good it is, and how to do it better.

      • ninetyninenine 1 hour ago
        >It's interesting seeing people argue about AI, because they're plainly not speaking about the same issue and simply talking past each other.

        There's actually some ground truth facts about AI many people are not knowledgeable about.

        Many people believe we understand in totality how LLMs work. The absolute truth of this is that we overall we do NOT understand how LLMs work AT all.

        The mistaken belief that we understand LLMs is the driver behind most of the arguments. People think we understand LLMs and that we Understand that the output of LLMs is just stochastic parroting, when the truth is We Do Not understand Why or How an LLM produced a specific response for a specific prompt.

        Whether the process of an LLM producing a response resembles anything close to sentience or consciousness, we actually do not know because we aren't even sure about the definitions of those words, Nor do we understand how an LLM works.

        This erroneous belief is so pervasive amongst people that I'm positive I'll get extremely confident responses declaring me wrong.

        These debates are not the result of people talking past each other. It's because a large segment of people on HN literally are Misinformed about LLMs.

    • milkey_mouse 2 hours ago
      If anything it's the opposite, except maybe at the very low end: AI boosts implementation skill (at least by increasing speed), but not {research, coding, writing} taste. Hence slop of all sorts.
  • cl42 5 hours ago
    In the spirit of July 4, John Lewis Gaddis explores a similar theme in "On Grand Strategy". This is one of my favourite explorations, where he compares Abraham Lincoln and John Quincy Adams:

    > Compare Lincoln’s life with that of John Quincy Adams. Great expectations inspired, pursued, and haunted Adams, depriving him, at critical moments, of common sense. Overestimations by others—which he then magnified—placed objectives beyond his reach: only self-demotion brought late-life satisfaction. No expectations lured Lincoln apart from those he set for himself: he started small, rose slowly, and only when ready reached for the top. His ambitions grew as his opportunities expanded, but he kept both within his circumstances. He sought to be underestimated.

    The point -- being too ambitious can slow you down if you're not strategic.

    • MichaelZuo 3 hours ago
      It almost seems like a tautology.

      e.g. By definition the 99.9th percentile person cannot live a 99.999th percentile life, if they did they would in fact be that amazing.

      • majormajor 3 hours ago
        > e.g. By definition the 99.9th percentile person cannot live a 99.999th percentile life, if they did they would in fact be that amazing.

        This seems far too deterministic and I think is contrary to what you're replying to.

        It sounds more like a 99.999th percentile person[0] that constantly reaches too far too early, before being prepared, will not have a 99.999th percentile life. A 99th percentile person who, on the other hand, does not constantly fail due to over-reach, can easily end up accomplishing more. (And there are many other things that might hold them back too - they might get hit by a car while crossing the street.)

        [0] in whatever measurement of "capability" you have in mind

        • MichaelZuo 3 hours ago
          Well the critical thing is that we can’t determine who is at what percentile until after the fact. So for example an early bloomer genius type, who is 99.999th percentile among everyone in the same birth year cohort, could suddenly crash back down towards the average.

          There’s no practical way to determine that looking forwards in time.

  • strogonoff 46 minutes ago
    To be strategic, you think hard enough how to get somewhere and carefully plan and eliminate unknowns until you reach a point when getting there is no longer interesting.

    Congratulations: you have successfully turned your cool idea into a chore. It’s just a lot of trivial typing and package management and it might not even be all that impressive when it is done.

    Your idea is not at all a path well-trodden, but it is a path down which you’ve sent a high-resolution camera FPV drone so many times that you doubt you will see anything new in person.

    What might happen then is that you try to keep it interesting by making it more impressive and raising the bar, by continuing to think and plan even harder. Why not write it in Rust? Why not make it super extensible? More diagrams, hundreds more of open tabs…

    It can absolutely lead to cool ideas with strategic and well-defined execution plans. Unfortunately, it is also difficult to break this loop and actually implement them without an external force or another mind giving you some feedback.

  • scuol 1 hour ago
    If this sounds like you, I highly recommend reading "The Problem of the Puer Aeternus".

    You can definitely skip a lot of the tedious bits where the author essential copy-pastes other books for analysis, but this is a very common pattern where people tend to hold themselves back because doing the unambitious, rather pedestrian next step forward requires one to face these preconceived notions about oneself, e.g. "I should've done this long ago", etc.

  • wrs 5 hours ago
    I’m very good at one thing (thank goodness), but I do some other things that I’m not good at, to remind myself how nice it feels to just do something without the pressure of having to be good at it.

    I also think being a beginner at other things reminds me that failure is what learning feels like, which gives me some perspective when my “real” job feels difficult although I’m supposedly so good at it.

    When I look back at big things I’ve done, they’re all the result of just “doing the thing” for a long time and making thousands of course corrections. Never the result of executing the perfect crystalline plan.

  • kretaceous 3 hours ago
    The first two sections reminded me of an observation I've made about myself: the more I delay "doing the thing" and spend time "researching" or "developing taste", the more I turn into a critic instead of a creator.

    > Your taste develops faster than your skill

    > "the quality group could tell you why a photograph was excellent"

    They are critics now. People with a huge taste-skill gap are basically critics — first towards themselves and gradually towards others. I don't want to generalize by saying "critics are just failed creators", but I've certainly found it true for myself. Trying to undo this change in me and this article kind of said all the words I wanted to hear. :)

    It's both dense and beautifully written. Feels like every paragraph has something profound to say. This kind of "optimizing-for-screenshot-shares" writing usually gets overdone, but since this actually had substance, it was amazing to read.

    (See how I turned into a critic?)

    • al_borland 3 hours ago
      For those who haven’t run across it, I like the man in the arena speech from Theodore Roosevelt to put things in perspective when I turn into a critic, or get harsh feedback from a critic.

      “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

  • pedalpete 5 hours ago
    What is "too ambitious"?

    Are there dreamers who overthink and never get anything done? Absolutely!

    Are there also people who do what other people regularly say is impossible? Also an absolute yes.

    Ambition has nothing to do with it. There are doers and there are talkers.

    • GianFabien 4 hours ago
      The word "ambition" comes with a variety of connotations.

      >There are doers and there are talkers.

      There are those who use their ambition to define a goal and then work tirelessly to achieve it. Think of the mountaineer who plans and trains for decades to eventually ascend Mt Everest.

      Then there are those who share their ambition by talking about it. Seeking recognition, etc for "being ambitious". Staying with the mountaineer theme, those who refuse to climb a lesser mountain as not being important enough to expend their precious talents upon. It is these folks that if they somehow make enough money in some form, end up chartering a helicopter and sherpas to climb Mt Everest.

      • lo_zamoyski 2 hours ago
        The word “ambition” is indeed vague, and this is unfortunate, as there is a rich vocabulary full of distinction we ought to be using. (You see the same thing when people use “passionate” as a virtue, such as in job postings when what they mean is “enthusiastic”. Taken literally, you certainly don’t want passionate employees!)

        In the strict sense, ambition [0] is an inordinate love of honor.

        Perseverance [1], OTOH, is the ability to endure suffering in pursuit of a good. Both effeminacy (refusal or inability to endure suffering to attain a good) and pertinacity (obstinate pursuit of something one should not) are opposed to perseverance.

        It seems that ambition is therefore opposed to perseverance, since it can either be effeminate (the ineffectual daydreamer that makes big plans that he never realizes) or pertinacious (the person who bites off more than he can chew).

        Prudence [3] involves the application of right reason to action, which itself presupposes right desire. An inordinate love of honor is therefore opposed to prudence, because it involves an inordinate desire. Furthermore, prudence presupposes humility [2], which involves knowing the actual limits of your strengths and qualities (it is not the denial of the strengths and qualities you actual have, which is opposed to humility and a common misconception!). Humility allows us to moderate our desires. In that sense, ambition as an inordinate desire for honors beyond one’s reach lacks humility.

        [0] https://www.newadvent.org/cathen/01381d.htm

        [1] https://www.newadvent.org/summa/3138.htm#article2

        [2] https://www.newadvent.org/cathen/07543b.htm

        [3] https://www.newadvent.org/cathen/12517b.htm

  • labrador 5 hours ago
    Being lazy is a clever form of productivity

    “I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.”

    ― Bill Gates

  • w10-1 4 hours ago
    Recognizing delusions is probably the highest form of wisdom. It can help us avoid entire wasted lives.

    That said, "Do-learn" sort of begs the question, and it's only a half-step. How do you know when you're polishing a turd? Who's to say this cycle is virtuous or vicious?

    The second part is that after you drop your self-centered delusion of seeking perfection, you actually start to find and solve other people's problems.

    It might not be pretty or fun, but that's what has value.

    If you're interested in building companies, the key factor is not the technology or even the team, but the market -- the opportunity to help.

    Then it's not really your ambition: it's a need that needs filling, and the question is whether you can find the people and means to do it, and you'll find both the people and the means are inspired not by your ambition, but by your vision for how to fill the need, in a kind of self-selected alignment and mutual support.

  • thehappyfellow 4 hours ago
    It's closely related to another truth:

    Unconstrained curiosity is a vice, not virtue.

    • jebarker 4 hours ago
      Especially if you’re a cat. Seriously though, I don’t like hearing this - curiosity about all things is sort of what keeps me getting up each morning.
    • bGl2YW5j 3 hours ago
      To you maybe. People get satisfaction and purpose from different things. Unbounded curiosity can often drive tangible outcomes too. You might even have that curiosity to thank for methods and tools you use in your own persuits!
  • SeanAnderson 5 hours ago
    I find it surprisingly difficult to lower my standards once I feel committed to an idea. I wish this article leaned a little more into ways to address that sort of dilemma.

    Don't get me wrong, I agree fully with the article. I put it into practice plenty well in many areas of my life. I've made great progress with my diet, self-care, and physical fitness routines by keeping my goals SMART.

    And yet, a few years ago, I got this idea in my head for a piece of software I wanted to create that is, if not too ambitious, then clearly asking all of me and then some. The opening paragraph of the article really resonated with me -- "The artwork that will finally make the invisible visible."

    And so, I've chipped away at the idea here and there, but I find myself continually put off by "the gap" - even though I know it's to be expected and is totally human.

    Part of me wishes I had never dared to dream so big and wishes I could let the idea go entirely. Another part of me is mad and ashamed for thinking like that about a personal dream.

    Anyway, don't know where I'm going with all this. Just felt like remarking on the article since it struck close to home.

    P.S. if you haven't seen the Ira Glass video, I'd take a look. It's pretty inspirational. Here's Part 3 which is what the article was referencing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2wLP0izeJE

  • fcatalan 1 hour ago
    This resonates a lot with me. In fact it's a trait that has made me unhappy for as long as I can remember.

    I'm seeing a therapist later this month because in a talk with my GP she saw strong enough hints of ADHD to send me there, and the kind of situations and some feelings talked about in the article came up a lot in the conversation.

    I size up my oil paints against the old masters, not the old ladies in the atelier. I paint miniatures way better than average but hang around with Golden Demon winners so I always find myself wanting. Can play beautiful Renaissance pieces on my uke, but infuriatingly not at a professional performance level. Can win many sim races, but not against the top 0.1%, yet I size myself against their telemetry and laptimes. I dabble in Chess but being forever stuck around lowly 1300 ELO makes me feel dumb. My dead side projects cemetery has subdirectories approaching 3 figures. I go out and cycle with my brother but I huff and puff while he tops the Strava segments and wins the regional amateur championship again.

    So too many days I just sit and do nothing, or just look for something else to enjoy for a few months until I become an unhappy promising beginner at yet another thing, adding to the overall problem.

  • ninetyninenine 1 hour ago
    >Creation is not birth; it is murder. The murder of the impossible in service of the possible.

    What a stupid quote. You know why it's stupid. Because murder is creation. It is the creation of death while destroying life.

    Just use the word the way it's meant to be used. Don't come up with quotes that sound clever and trick the mind into thinking a statement is profound when really it's just more word trickery.

    • the_af 1 hour ago
      I thought the phrase was a whimsical/poetic way of saying something that rings true to me: that all the possibilities in your mind get narrowed down to a single imperfect one when actually materializing/putting them into practice -- in a way getting "destroyed" and replaced with an imperfect but existing version -- and that we sometimes get anxious about this.

      It's not the only way of looking at it, but it is one way, and it's not wrong.

  • dismalaf 3 hours ago
    I hate the title but actually a pretty decent article.

    > We are still the only species cursed with visions of what could be. But perhaps that's humanity's most beautiful accident. To be haunted by possibilities we cannot yet reach, to be driven by dreams that exceed our current grasp. The curse and the gift are the same thing: we see further than we can walk, dream bigger than we can build, imagine more than we can create.

    > And so we make imperfect things in service of perfect visions. We write rough drafts toward masterpieces we may never achieve. We build prototypes of futures we can barely envision. We close the gap between imagination and reality one flawed attempt at a time.

  • deadbabe 4 hours ago
    Ambition is the enemy of consistency.
  • anonreeeeplor 3 hours ago
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  • alganet 6 hours ago
    substack considered harmful
    • Myzel394 5 hours ago
      Why's that?
      • alganet 5 hours ago
        it rewards viral, vague behavior that only draws clicks but doesn't actually generate knowledge
        • vasco 5 hours ago
          The windmills are that way
          • alganet 5 hours ago
            running into a windmill considered harmful
            • rvz 4 hours ago
              considered harmful considered harmful
              • alganet 4 hours ago
                One could make a vague substack post about this.
    • moritzwarhier 5 hours ago
      headline is enough, rest is probably fluff anyway (haven't clicked, headline sounds thoughtful & reasonable)
      • afeuerstein 5 hours ago
        I found this to be a good read, and I can only recommend at least skimming it through.
        • jebarker 4 hours ago
          +1 - this resonated with me. For 25 years I have been an aspiring songwriter and it’s a constant battle against perfectionism and learned/imagined standards. I believe the right path is to just write a large volume of songs at a high rate no matter how bad they are, but that is an amazingly hard thing to let yourself do
        • moritzwarhier 5 hours ago
          Thanks!